When it All Blow Up in the Workplace

Hi there, Reader;

Have you ever had a project blow up in your face? Have you ever experienced a presentation blow-up?  I remember when I first begin in the business world and was young and always worried about how I would do what my boss wanted me to do. He or she was called a boss then, today I believe it is a superior or an executive. I recently witnessed the age discrimination when men wanted to meet a person and they fell short of their expectations. They were not young enough of their fantasy wasn't met. Whatever, the reason here are a few coping skills met along the way. Or shall I say I learned along the way.

When it blows up:

•  You can address the issue with the person. Although, I honestly think they will denied that it happened or that they were trying to sabotage you. I would try this first and when the NO! or the STOP doesn't work. The over the top accusation in the workplace don't go over well. Then show them what you are made of. Not literally let them just experience the reality that you are not willing to allow it.  It doesn't mean it didn't happen it just means the person wants more than you are wiling to give them and you are not responsible for their ambition.
• Get a witness. First make sure you don't tell the witness anything. So they can help you. It has to be a person or persons you know will do right by you. It might take more than one person you know especially in the workplace. We all have our own interest in mind in the workplace. We are so called responsible for ourselves and no one else. Therefore, you have to make sure that the person you ask for help from will not end up betraying you. 
• You if possible video it, film it, photograph the moment of blow up if you can. Whether it's you getting nervous making a presentation, or when you are trying to put your things together, meet a deadline or just trying to put a project together. Your goal is to succeed in what you do. No for anyone other than to do the job you were hired to do. I believe these moments define the person.
• Handle each moment with a great deal of patience for yourself. Yes, you have to care about yourself, before others care for you. That means stop any self sabotaging thoughts. You are not required to think bad things or self defeating thoughts about yourself just because someone else wants you to.
• Keep private things private. The workplace is never the place to share your personal business. If you went out and partied all weekend and show up to work a mess. They will know it. You don't have to share it. Let's face it we are all human and we either covet success or denie it. Self destruction is not what business is about. However, life happens to the best of us. I'd hate to think what happens to the worse of us. 
• Make sure if it is your superior you ask them when the next monetary compensation date is. It is customary that if you have to prove faith in the workplace you are monetary compensated for the experience both with dollars and medical benefits.

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Let's Talk Travel

Hi there, Reader;

Kate Spade

I am so excited to share this one with you that I will be posting this on all four of my blogs. It is the best there is for Honeymoon or Vacation.  Have you ever heard of getting paid for travel? I had not heard of it either until I read and saw this video from Time Magazine and Money Magazine. Sounds like a great way to save money and start planning a honeymoon to be remembered. Yes, there are couple who sometimes what to forget their honeymoon because it was ill planned. I confess to all of you I loved my honeymoon and all the little surprises my groom planned for us. It just wasn't long enough because work changed the start dates and called him.

Here are my suggestions.

1. Let your supervisor know that you are requesting time off.  Not early, nor late, each work handbook has the number of days you are suppose to submit the paperwork so do it at the appropriate time. I have heard of workers.

2. Don't tell them you are getting married if you are planning a small wedding and not inviting them. If you have to submit a reason why. The put small intimate wedding. It may or may not create hurt feelings in the workplace. It's the same mentality as when your a child and someone doesn't get invited to the birthday party.

3. Take the time to learn the interest of your wife/husband before you plan the wedding. Don't take them to the middle of Africa to camp if they are all about loving city life. It doesn't mean you can't plan a trip like that latter. It is just not advisable for your honeymoon.

4. Know how much your going to spend and then if possible double it. We all have shopping moments Plus when traveling it is better to have too much money rather than too little. Isn't that true about life.

5. Enjoy your honey...It should be a time to better get to know each other. Make future plans. Talk about nothing and talk about everything before the big responsibilities set in. What is that responsibility? You've lived together and dated for a while. Maybe, you don't live together... It's called life and daily living.

This is a disclaimer, although I am registered travel agent, I am not receiving any money at this time from these companies for writing about their magazine and video link, 

From Time Magazine (Click on the Link)
The article from Money Magazine reads like this.