Financial Assistance for Woman Who Wed

Hi there, Reader:

Happy New Year! I was thinking about all the money being spent and the expectations on young and old woman today. Your not only expected to go to college or university, your also expected to pay for it. When you graduate your expected to be debt free. First, be kind to yourself and trust yourself that you can do it.

As I thought about it I realized one of the most difficult transitions in life is from teen to young adulthood to manhood. Not really sure if that is what it is called. However, what I do know. is expectations of others can make life more difficult than what it needs to be. If I thought I was something great I would of taken back the advice I gave my own children thinking I would be with them all the time and shared this with then.

1.  As soon as possible open up a savings account. This one would be all yours independent of your parents saving account for you. It doesn't have to be thousands of dollars. It just has to be a place you can place money into it each month. I would start off with 10-20% of your pay check. I understand your only making minimum wage. The reality is isn't 10-20 what you would pay someone as a tip? Why not pay yourself?

2. Figure out a monthly, weekly and daily budget. There are many books that teach people how to do this. Don't give up if the first one doesn't work. Try again until you find one you can stick with. Put away purchasing things you want and start putting money you want away.  That little starbucks or that little black dress you wanted for the New Years Eve Party....all have to wait.

3. Your parents had a plan for your life and now you are on your own trying to figure out if those plans are what you really wanted. It's okay, just keep moving forward and you will figure it out. I promise you will figure out. So many of lives challenges are related to money. Those that have and those that have not. You just have to plan...that is how those people have. There is nothing with possessions on earth. What is important is that you have integrity as you create yours.

4. After college or university you can devise a way to get out of debt. You have accomplished your goals and on to the next. You might have to have debt to accomplish your goal. The first is to get out of debt, so you know you can. It is to understand that you can pay off your debt if you have to. Then the next goal you set you'll know you can accomplish, because you accomplished the first. Parent want children to attend college, it develops a seance of independence. and accomplishment. It builds the child from childhood like dependence to self confidence and self reliance. Didn't attend college, no worries, the concepts are still thee same.

5. Develop skills that you will need. Marketplace Skills , I believe is what they are called Most business experience will have you do things that will develop you as a person and as business person. Understand they might not all be good experiences.

6. The first thing on thee list to own should be a house. It could be a modern flat or town house. Why? All of us need a place to live. Life is about family and friends, however the truth is friends will only help you for so many years. If you own your own place then you don't have to relay on other people. This will get you through many lonely nights...it's okay we all have them. Sometimes making the right choices for ourselves means letting go of the fun things we want to do. Those fun things create memories, owning your own home creates security.

Those are my six best thoughts of advice. If you don't know how to accomplish this then seek the advice of a professional financial planner.

This is a disclaimer, I am not being paid by either of the links below. It is my understanding that they are professional organizations that help people. 

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Single Woman Chrismas PlaceSetting

Hi there, Single Woman;

It's that time of year, where at church one might feel like the outcast. The ones the churches don't really know what to do with. Your single/married. A wifey/not. The wife may or may not like you. Yet you won't be invited to all the social events in their home. Did you ask for this. I don't think so...if you did why?

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The truth is it is a testing of who, what, when, where, why?  As singles does The Lord assume we want to be married?  If so why?  Now if I were to look it up spiritually I would have to ask you why would you want me to do that.  Then I would have all the knowledge and you wouldn't. However, I
 encourage you do so.

Embrace your single-hood...No not the hood of your car, however if you have too take a photograph of yourself sitting on it. ( I wouldn't do it. Doesn't mean you can't.) Today I posted one of a kitten sitting on the dashboard. The Lord has a since of humor and he might just be testing your faith.


Faith...is what to you? I know what it is to me. Yes, I too rejoice with all you wifey"s. Rejoice on the beauty of being single. How fun it is on Christmas Day....you don't have children to wake you up and ask you if Santa has been to the house. You get to eat by yourself, spend endless hours by yourself, think by yourself. No nagging husband with a honey do list. Or children with an I want this, I want that, give me this, give me that.

Your free!!!! If you want put your tree on the table....  The man can't ask you to dance on the table or the bed anymore for that matter.  Get the courage this Christmas to box up all the goodies and put them away.

Here are my rules of editquettee for being single.

1. Don't tell anyone. It's really non of their business, unless you want them to know.
2. When you want to do what you want to. Grace and forgiveness are equal and isn't it what made you single to begin with. Someone did something they wanted to and one of you didn't want to.
3. Whenever you feel sad for yourself, set yourself a beautiful placesetting and than The Lord. That you have one...

Be Bless!

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Christmas and Single

Hi There, Readers;

What are we to do? We are single and it's Christmas! It's the time of year when we are invited to attend tons of Christmas Parties. What's a girl to do? The man you wed is married and what looked like a good office relationship will be assumed more when they see you at the Christmas party. That double standard of its okay for the man and not acceptable for the woman still exist. You know that cold shoulder we woman give each other when we see another woman having a close relationship with their co-worker or executive partner. It doesn't have to be a reality, it's perceived reality.

Here are a few ways to cope with the reality of single woman.

1. Dress your best and dress for success. Remember to keep it age appropriate. Meaning don't wear something for a thirteen year old if your forty, even if it's your daughters and she says you look great in it.

2. Make sure if you have a relationship that is close, let the wife know. There is nothing to be a shamed of unless you have some fantasy you want to act on. In that case put yourself in check with a friend who will not allow you to act on it.

3. If your an extremely bold, let the wife or significant other know. There are many relationships in life where I have found the man attractive and have decided to tell his partner. I can't tell you how great it is to have that person understand and help me stay faithful to my own beliefs and family.

4. Attend the party with confidence knowing that it is acceptable to be single and no one has the right to say you are less because of it.

5. Don't let anyone make you sad or feel.like you should feel anything other than the need to rejoice with the season. The season brings enough frustrating thing...

6. Once you understand the mind set of some is to make themselves feel more important by making you feel less it's your job as a woman to protect yourself the best you can.

7. I love this season even though I have caught the good fight and have won some and lost some. That is not the seasons fault. It's just part of life. Maybe, not yours however it has been mine. Be proud knowing that you did the best you can with what you knew at the time. It is my version of one of Oprah Winfrey quotes.

8. It is really about knowing what type of woman you are and that knowledge is knowing you ate. What another woman wants is not always what is best for you at the Christmas party your invited to.

Most of all have fun and be yourself. That is what life is about being your self.